Moments

When you’ve been single for awhile, it can become more and more difficult to be happy for major milestones in your friends lives.  Engagements, marriages, babies, even someone getting a new boyfriend can be a ping to the heart.  After so many pings, it get’s harder and harder to not stop every time it happens. 

But that’s ok.  Take your moment.

Then comes the “encouragement”. “Your moment will come when you you’re not thinking about it.” How that’s possible I will never know because honestly, how will you not think about it, especially when the same people that say statements like that are the ones that continually ask you if you’ve met someone.   Unfortunately, those moments just add another ping, another quick shock of pain. 

There are moments that will help get through the pings though.  Those are the moments I cherish more than any date I’ve ever been on. My moments include a spontaneous trip to London to see friends, and explore the city on my own discovering that exploring a city on my own is actually pretty fun; going to the beach for the friends wedding and spending part of the day (before the wedding) on the beach, just you in your dress and the ocean.   Moments, when you walk home from work in a new(ish) city just because you can and moments when you finally put together your new bed in your new apartment, all by yourself. 

Those moments… those are the moments that will get you through the pings.  They help remind you that you can do this single life.  Not everyone can have those moments, but you can. So take your moment to catch your breath when you see that engagement picture of your friend that’s years younger than you.  But then remember the moment that you have yet to have, when you buy that ticket to visit a friend in NYC; or that moment when you are comfortable and confident enough to sit outside with your favorite drink, just you and the sunset.  Those are the moments that can help you get through anything.