Well congratulations!
You have survived Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day, and President's Day weekend. Though the last holiday is
not even close to as tough as the other holidays, for someone that is single
each holiday is a reminder that you are in fact, single. You see all of the couples buying gifts for each
other, spending special evenings together to celebrate, putting on Facebook
pictures of the first (but of course not the last) holiday together, and then
usually proclaiming to the world how amazing the other person is.
And then there is us singles. We put on our best face to be happy for our
friends, admire their new pretty gifts, as we sit at home cursing every new
engagement we see on Facebook of people that are usually at least three to four
years younger than us. I even considered
this year to send out Christmas cards with a really good picture of just
myself, and maybe my dog. To sum it all
up, it's just a difficult time of year for singles.
I saw a movie recently that was about a couple, a couple
that wasn't even a couple until the end part of the movie. Emma and Dexter were two people that met in
college, and over the next 20-30 years they showed us a journey of becoming
best friends while almost becoming more than that at least once a year. Then finally after failed relationships, life
changes, career changes, failures and accomplishments, they figure out that
they are the only ones for each other.
For most of the movie you end up frustrated at them for the fact that
they didn't figure it all out sooner and get their lives together, but that is
the exact reason they didn't get together sooner, they had to get their lives
together. Thinking on the movie after it
was over, I realized how true it is for real life. Though movies always dramatize and romanticize
the story to make them more enjoyable for us viewers, there are still portions
of real life that we see in them. For
this one, it was that timing is everything.
If these two characters would have "finally"
gotten together any sooner, the relationship would have been a disaster and it
would not have worked. They had to
experience life on their own before they would finally settle down with the one
that they were meant to settle down with, their best friend. I believe and am still learning, that this is
just how it is. Though we may think we
are ready, we most likely are not.
Though we think we are mature enough, most likely we're not. Even that time when we think that we are
unselfish enough to handle a relationship, we most definitely are not. Timing is everything.
The most difficult part is we can't control it, we
really just don't know who, when, or where that certain someone will come
along. What we can do though, is
continue to live our life. Continue to pursue
our dreams, our ambitions, make new friends and spend lots of times with our
current friends, and keep our focus on where it is meant to be. If we do that, then one day we just might be
ready to meet them, that one person we were meant to be with.
So once again, congrats on making it through the holidays in
one piece. Being single means that
you still have a lot more to accomplish on your own, which is always an
adventure. This life adventure is to be
enjoyed, so put on a real smile and get ready.
Because wedding and
baby season is just around the corner...
