Ok, so that's not really a good response to the comment, but lets be honest, that is what you would like to say (well that's at least what I would like to say...).
Though many people mean the best when they are making comments like that, as singles it doesn't always feel like it. I know for me, one of the most dreaded questions is, "are you seeing anyone?" (unless an attractive single guy is asking that, then it's a great question...) I have literally told some of my friends that if the answer to that question changes, I promise I will let you know, but until then, please don't ask.
An article on this subject was recently published in my favorite online/print magazines, Relevant Magazine. The article was titled, "What Not to Say to Singles." The list of three comments sounded very familiar, and honestly there could have been 30 more comments to talk about, but nobody has time for that. It was a great article and it was nice to read that I am not alone, and almost 6,000 other people seemed to agree. Below is one of my favorite quotes from the author, Debra Fileta, that really encouraged me, and will hopefully touch a cord on people that view singleness as an unfortunate event.
"Rather than try to make singles forget about their singleness, we need to challenge them to keep it in mind, yet not allow it to cause them to lose sight of all else. Embracing singleness has nothing to do with forgetting the destination toward marriage and everything to do with enjoying the ride."
Fileta recognized how needed information like this is and went ahead and wrote a fantastic article on "How to Love on Singles" on her website, truelovedates.com. I would really like to encourage singles and non-singles alike to read it. It helps us all recognize that there are other ways to encourage, and that we really are all in this together, single or not.
