Oh, the single life. It's a discouraging journey. In this over-sharing culture of Facebook and twitter, it is easy to feel that everyone else is meeting new people and getting new significant others all of the time. TV shows, LOVE to make it look so easy to meet and connect with new people, but here in real life, it's not. You meet new people, you hit it off and have a great evening, and then you never hear from them again.
What happened?! Then the process starts, you try to think of everything you did and analyze everything from the evening and you end up realizing that you actually did everything wrong. OK not really, but it's easy to feel that way, though that might just be my process...
Living in this stage of single life can sometimes be the most discouraging thing ever. It is so much easier to think of everything we do wrong, wonder if there is something wrong with us, and then we end up just wanting to give up on the whole thing and just bury ourselves in work or really just anything that will occupy our thoughts and time.
This is a place I find myself often. It's not easy for me to really connect with people, so when I connect with a guy and even exchange numbers, I get excited. Then a few days go by, then a week, and then I realize the hard truth that, that phone call or text message I've been hoping for is not going to happen. I can shrug it off, because I do believe what is meant to be, will be, but there are still those thoughts of disappointment.
As I grow older, I work harder to not stay in that state of disappointment. The truth that gives me the most comfort and hope is that my one foundation in life doesn't go anywhere just because my dating life seems to be non-existent. My faith in Jesus doesn't have to falter because I know He loves me, He's there for me, and He cares for me more than any guy could.
Matthew 6:26 and 27 says, "Look
at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into
barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value
than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?"
Those verses cover so many worries in life, but for us singles, it should cover the dating life (or lack-there-of) as well. So it's OK to be disappointed, but don't stay there. Continue to live this crazy adventure called life, and just one day you might be surprised when at the right moment, after having that evening of great conversation and laughter, your phone rings.
